5 Ways to live a more authentic life
“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are”-Brene Brown
One of my daily goals is to be my most authentic self. There are so many taboos and more sensitivity than I’ve ever experienced, and this can be difficult to navigate while trying to maintain authenticity. Here are the 5 ways you can live a more authentic life:
- Embrace yourself and all you have to offer
- Give Kindness Freely
- Be Brave
- Be honest
We as we women are marketed to in every second of every day. There’s always some cream or potion that promises to give more of this and less of that.
But when was the last time you looked at yourself with out makeup and embraced the true beauty that’s in you? I know the first thing I do is go straight to my blemishes. I’m incredibly insecure about them. But what are blemishes really? Blemishes are experiences and lessons learned. My scars and spots are the road map for the life I’ve lived
Know your value and don’t take no for an answer. I strive daily to push myself and those around me to be the best version of themselves.
When we were children, we were encouraged to dream and somehow as we morphed into adults our dreams died. We had to make way for “the real world”. Well sometimes, the real world sucks. Dreams are magical gifts that we give ourselves. What did you want to be when you grew up? If you had a prefect dream world, what would you be doing and how can you incorporate that into your life?
We live in such a different era. With the internet and social media, we are able to see living proof of people defying convention. To see people our age or younger change the world and radically reshape the way we approach life. Is that only reserved for them? Do you sit and stare out the window wistfully thinking about what could have been?
I found myself trying to find that mythical “dream job” until I had a come to Jesus conversation with a very mindful friend of mine. We talked in depth about finding the happiness elsewhere, not being confined to believing that our “jobs” had to be it. I was looking to be fulfilled by something that was never going to fulfill me.
Once I acknowledged that, my work life became easier and more enjoyable. Work is an inevitable part of life, but it doesn’t have to be painful. You can still dream of things you one day want to have, try, or do. Keep your dreams alive and work towards them.
Be kind without the intention of getting something back. Give someone a compliment, a genuine one. Hold the door, and know they may or may not say thank you. Be ok with that.
There is darkness and evil in this world and sometimes it is down right overwhelming. You have to be the light you wish to see in the world. I don’t know about y’all but when someone gives me a genuine compliment or strikes up a conversation with me at the grocery store, the drama of traffic or that I had to work late, doesn’t seem so bad. If we just had a little more kindness in the world, it might be a better place for all of us. IJS
The world is a scary place. People are scewered for voicing their opinion or standing up for what they believe is right. We’ve become so sensitive and censored we sometimes don’t say anything at all. Stand up for your beliefs and don’t let anyone tell you different. Now, I’m not telling you to be on your soap box all day and all night, use good judgement and make good choices, but speak up!
Be honest with yourself and with others. You don’t have to sacrifice kindness to be honest. You can be honestly kind. It’s as simple as thinking of how your word will make someone feel. Words can cut deeper than any sword if you wield them wrong. This does not mean we have to lie, it means we have to be honest.
I remember being a child and my mom being more disappointed that I lied to her versus the actual bad thing that I was trying to cover for. I found myself in trouble for the lie versus the action. Trust, once lost, is difficult to regain. Honesty is always the best policy.
Authenticity is all about being your truest you. Not a version of who you think you should be based on societal pressures. You have to be able to feel comfortable and confident in your own skin and be truly happy with the person you see in the mirror. What is your legacy? When you look back on your life, have you given it all you got, did you try new things, did you live the life you wanted to?
Life happens, sometimes in the way we planned, but more often than not, it just kinda does its own thing. That does not mean you can’t change or try something new.
It’s not a dream or “fantasy” to be happy each day.
This is not me saying throw your cares to the wind and abandon your responsibilities! I am not saying that! ? I am saying find a way to make your life as close to your dreams as possible!
Most days I’m tired, work sucks, there was traffic, and I spilled my coffee… I’m not saying those things aren’t real and frustrating, but do they really matter? Sure, in the moment, it’s the worst thing ever, but zoom out a bit. Does it really matter? Are you making the most of each moment in every day?
Take those moments, experience them, feel them, and then move on because we’ve got a world to conquer.
How do you live your authentic life?